Being a parent, it is natural for you to contemplate the best ways in which you can teach your child to differentiate between the wrong and the right. Among the different approaches adopted for raising children and training them, positive and negative punishment are the two methods which are used in teaching children what discipline is. If your child happens to be particularly unruly and disobedient, it can become tricky to determine the best tactics for discipline. As a parent, you would want your disciplinary approach to stay effective without getting extreme.
Your job gets tougher when you have a stubborn child. This is when positive punishment can help. Going by the name ‘positive punishment’, you may think that it comprises of everything that’s ‘good’. But this is not the case. This form of punishment also has both positive and negative effects. It just means that you’re adding a negative upshot for a negative behavior. Just as two negatives make a positive, this too works in a similar manner.
Techniques of positive punishment
There are several positive techniques of punishment which you can use for raising your children with the right lessons. Here are few that you may take note of.
- Marker system: Marker system is one of the best ways of blending positive punishment with positive support. This method is in many ways similar to the approach of the school teachers where a child’s name has to be written on the board as a mark for ill conduct. The teachers generally make a chart with the names of the students and a definite marker against each name. Each time they demonstrate ill behavior; there is a mark on the chart. Teachers, in fact claimed that the marker system can curb negative behavior very fast.
- Rebuking: Parents frequently use this form of positive punishment called rebuking or scolding without even being conscious about it. It could be done both in private and in public. Scolding is pretty effective when it is not overused as it allows the child to be aware of the fact that the behavior that they’re displaying is inappropriate or wrong. For older children and children who reason well, rebuking is an effective method.
- Grounding: One more common form of positive punishment is grounding. When parents ground their children at home and keep them from attending social events or going out with friends, this becomes a form of negative punishment. On the contrary, grounding your child within their room is more in line with positive punishment. The line of difference is indeed very subtle as long as grounding is concerned.
If you find your child to be specifically overactive, aggressive or moody, you may suspect something else to be the reason behind their bad conduct. It is always a wise idea to get your child evaluated to determine the condition and state of his mental health.